Ladies, before you get married "again"

I've dealt with numerous cases where the girls are adamant to get out of their current marriage relationships. Some have started hunting even while "separated". telling me they're taking a head start. I ask them simply, are you technically married. yes or no simple answer ? and they say yes but... and i say enough said. Try to work out your current relationship while you're in it.

second scenario is where I have dealt with wives who claim they 'annulled' the marriage by going to the court. some say they "got" a divorce through the court. My purpose is to shed light on this matter from Quran and Sunnah perspective.

1. In islam, and that's if you care at all about Allah at the point you're in, then the divorce can only and i mean only be "given" by the husband.

2. the woman can "ask" for it, but that's called khul. regardless, even if she does ask for it, the husband still has to "give" in to her wish and give her a divorce if she agrees to pay back the mehr and the husband agrees to it.

Notice once again the husband still has to give the divorce once she initiates the khul. A khul is NOT a divorce, it's only the initiation of her "asking" for a divorce.

3. Cases where the husband simply refuses to divorce her and she ends up getting one somehow through the court without his consent, then that's a divorce she got from the court/judge, not her husband.

If you're a muslim and you did nikah, then the nikah is valid until the husband agrees to divroce you. regardless what papers you got from or gave your husband.

Those who have re-married while their first husbands never agreed to divorce them, in literal sense have done a nikah over the first nikah. Not valid.

But then again all this matters only if people wish to care about what Allah swt has said. because divroce to begin with is something Allah swt dislikes. So if the girl is determined to make Allah swt angry, then at that point does anything else really matter ?

The women come to me and tell me they're good muslims, pray and make roza's. I say, Allah swt says if you pray you pray for yourself, if you fast you fast for your own good as Allah swt doesnt need it from you.

BUT, if you divorce, you directly effect the feelings of Allah swt, you displease him. How can you claim that you love Allah swt and are a good muslim while you're determined to displease him ?

think again ladies.

I address the women because 99% of the divorces these days in the courts are being brought in by muslim women who want to get a divorce while their husbands want to stay together.

here's a link to the video from the Islamic scholar related to divorce so we may all understand more what Allah swt tells how.

Dr Zakir Naik's video.

May Allah help us all stay together and in love.

Ameen.